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Posted: 26 September 2017
What is your trust policy
In my work as a Counsellor, I am very aware of how important trust is in the therapy room. It’s like the magic ingredient that really allows the therapeutic process to begin and flow freely.

Some clients arrive ready to share, but for others it takes time to recognise that they are in a safe space where they can allow themselves to be vulnerable. I feel honoured and greatly respect the trust shown each time a client says the words ‘I have never told anyone this before…’

I began thinking recently how this plays out in my own life and decided to establish what my policy is with regard to trusting people. I have great friendships and family relationships which have a solid foundation in which I feel secure and a history which allows me to know I can trust, but what about the new people I meet?

After some thought, I decided that I could sum up my own personal trust policy as this:

‘People are mostly good. Start from a position of trust but be alert if they show you that you cannot trust them and then listen and react to that’

I, like most people have been let down, had my heart broken and trusted the wrong people. That feeling can be overwhelming and for some it can leave them with an inability to ever open up and make themselves vulnerable to anyone again.

To trust leaves you open to being hurt, but if I don’t trust am I setting myself up for a lonely life with no intimacy and will I possibly end my existence full of regret for the relationships and opportunities I missed out on.

I recognise that the key learning for me was the importance of listening to those warning signs. It may be a niggling thought that things don’t make sense that needs checking out. It could be not feeling safe, questioning someone’s honesty or just that uneasy feeling in the pit of my stomach.

Who can I trust? What can I trust? Should I trust? These are important questions that we all ask but they can sometimes lead to great anxiety. It’s important to stop and check those uneasy feelings, but sometimes we can put barriers up to protect ourselves when they are not required.

If trust feels like an issue for you then why not try counselling as a way to uncover your own ‘trust policy’ and see if it’s right and healthy for you?

I work with individuals and Couples experiencing trust issues, both in face to face sessions in Warrington, Cheshire and Online using Instant message and email therapy.

Take care of yourself and others.
Written by: Tangled Thoughts
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